in the spirit of jgnat's poll's.... let's name some good things about being in a commited relationship/marriage with a jw who actually follows wts doctrines.
i know there will probably be a lot of sarcastic responses.
i'll start.. because of my husbands faith and actual belief in the way he was raised - i know he won't cheat on me or be out in the bars.
Hi Wednesday,
I know JW's do bad things too...just like non-jw people.
The spirit of my post was that if you are married or in a relationship with a JW who is actually following the WTS rules...name some good things.
JW's commit adultery, watch porn, steal, molest children, etc.
I know.
I was just trying to lighten up all of our posts and polls about the hardships of being in a religiously split marriage.
Ta-ta.
Chrystal
in the spirit of jgnat's poll's.... let's name some good things about being in a commited relationship/marriage with a jw who actually follows wts doctrines.
i know there will probably be a lot of sarcastic responses.
i'll start.. because of my husbands faith and actual belief in the way he was raised - i know he won't cheat on me or be out in the bars.
My husband doesn't look at porn, he speaks respectfully about me and he doesn't put himself into awkward positions with women.
Also, he's very handy around the house because he went to trade school and worked on so many KH builds.
Also, I don't think its wrong for the man to be the head of the household as long as he's following the bible and not some made up idea of how a husband should be - not dominating and being a dictator. If he is spouting off that he's the head of the house...and has to tell me, he's really not the head of the house.
Chrystal
in the spirit of jgnat's poll's.... let's name some good things about being in a commited relationship/marriage with a jw who actually follows wts doctrines.
i know there will probably be a lot of sarcastic responses.
i'll start.. because of my husbands faith and actual belief in the way he was raised - i know he won't cheat on me or be out in the bars.
In the spirit of JGnat's Poll's...
Let's name some good things about being in a commited relationship/marriage with a JW who actually follows WTS doctrines. I know there will probably be a lot of sarcastic responses. I'll start.
Because of my husbands faith and actual belief in the way he was raised - I know he won't cheat on me or be out in the bars.
He isn't lazy and he works very hard to support our family.
I'll add more things that I have thought of that keep me working hard to keep my relationship together as others add their 2 cents.
Chrystal
maybe i watch too many cartoons, but i always worry about falling boulders.
Hmmm, funny story about things falling from the sky.
We bought a church built in 1899...
Think small southern church not big catholic church.
Shortly after moving in and beginning construction I was downstairs working. I heard a huge crash upstairs and came running up the stairs to find that the plaster in front of the basement stairs had fallen down from the 16 foot high ceiling. It made a godawful sound. Scared the poop out of me!
It was the first set of tears I dedicate to my house! I remember calling husband and saying...I hate this f**king house! Why did we do this!!! I want a normal house!!! Le sob, Le boo hoo hoo.
Then darling husband says...Remember honey,, you said you didn't want a house that looked like everybody elses?
That was definately the wrong thing to say to an irrational woman who's house was obviously trying to kill her!
Falling 100 year old horsehair plaster, may not kill you but it sure makes a big stinky mess!
Chrystal
I plan to be hiding in my house praying that the Cambodian, Honduran and Portugese neighbhors don't get drunk and get into a fight again like last year!
But before the drinking and fighting and praying begin......and no I am not joking....
I shall probably be painting my oldest son's bedroom.
Chrystal
i originally thought of posting this thread last week when a thread was started last week: .
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/104099/1.ashx .
this girl didn't seem to realize the extent of the "apostasy" on this thread.
CYP-
You forgot something in your best of article.
If you are considering being in a commited relationship with a practicing JW or a non-practicing JW who still believes in the WTS ...
Get a grenade and pull the pin it will be less painful.
Not that I am bitter.....LOL!
Chrystal
i originally thought of posting this thread last week when a thread was started last week: .
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/104099/1.ashx .
this girl didn't seem to realize the extent of the "apostasy" on this thread.
I agree CYP we should be kind to the JW's that show up here from time to time.
But I have to say...I honestly cannot stand the weekly posts from people who have fallen in love with a JW.
I just want to say - Get over him/her. You are not married. Walk away - if you can...... run.
I feel like their little drama is nothing compared to the 8 years that I have been dealing with this.
Too bad their feelings are hurt. If a person doesn't want to be with them because they aren't a JW this tells you everything you need to know about them....If you're still chasing them after they told you they don't want to be with you unless you change X Y Z and become a JW and you are still crying about this...!!! Then it tells you something about YOURSELF! Get Therapy!
I am invested in this. I am married. I have children. For me there are no other options. I have to make this work. I have to fight.
Boy, sorry about this...I guess I am having some cathartic venting. Sorry to hijack your post.
Chrystal
i'm sure this has been posted about but can someone link me the old thread or something, i'm interested if this is still being pushed..... .
http://www.jwfiles.com/2034.htm.
that's a link to an online article about 2034 being the new end date, is this still going on?
I heard about this from my MIL....I couldn't help but laugh.
I thought they weren't supposed to make predictions like this anymore!
Chrystal
just officially finished my christmas shopping and came home to drop everything off before i had to go pick up our oldest son at kindergarten.. i ran out to check the mail before leaving and 2 elders were walking up our steps.. one of them has been to our house before and he is the same one who did the despicable funeral talk at my husbands grandmothers funeral.. the conversation goes:.
i called the wts legal office and your organisation has been informed that if you come to our home, call or send us mail you will be trespassing and it will be considered a form of harrassment and i will call the police.. elder bw - we came to see if ________ was home so we could speak to him about his intentions?.
me - unlike you, my husband actually works for a living, he's at work like most decent people during the day!
Well, I am guessing the English speaking congregation Elders don't speak to the Spanish Elders in our local KH.
On Christmas Eve, we had a visit from 2 very nice Spanish speaking sisters.
I simply said....No Quiero Jehovah y Watchtowero Magazino- Feliz Navidad y prospero ano nuevo and I closed the door.
Since I left California my spanish has definately not improved. LOL!
Does anyone know of any brochures about the blood situation and silentlambs in Spanish?
Chrystal
do you have any sayings/anecdotes/mantras/cliches that help you cope?
i've heard a few that i employ with my own modifications:.
i like the "dear dad" letter, though i don't know if my folks would appreciate it if i applied to leaving the org.. "if my mother knew about this, she'd be spinning in her grave.
This has nothing to do with JW's...
But its been my personal mantra for a while now....
Is this going to matter in a year?
I apply this to any situation where I may get angry, anxious, irrational...if it's not going to matter in a year...I just take a couple of deep breaths and try like hell to let it go.
If it's going to matter....then I get ready for battle...LOL!
Chrystal
